it applies for any kind of relation.
brotherhood, sisterhood, friendship, and sometimes even family.
all of them have one main reason why their relation screwed.
both parties stop trying.
how can both parties stop trying?
well there are many things that effect a person's mind.
environment, the people around them, pain, lost of feelings.
sometimes i wonder,
how can me and my best friends still have a lot to talk about when we're back at our home. you know, we chat and stuffs. when we actually have been talking about a lot of things back in school. we've been together at school for like 8 hours. how can we not run out of things to talk about? how could there be so much more to be discussed?
but then, when we're apart, how can there be nothing left to say?
how can there be nothing left to ask? to discuss? to laugh at? to be... just to be together?
i keep wondering how wild can a human's mind goes. it's really is weird thinking that someday you walk past by someone that used to be your whole world, but you didn't even recognized them.
it's weird how they say distance ruined relationship.
because that's not true. that's not true at all.
distance didn't ruined anything. here's a proof: when you're studying far away from home. you will miss you parents/family right? so, what did you do? you call home. you talk with them. you're happy by just listening to their voices.
so what does the difference between that and couple's relation? between that and friendship?
it will only be ruined if you got tired of trying. you got tired of being the only one who cares about the relationship. you got tired because the other party seems to be just fine.
you will always have this 'homesick' when you're away from home. no matter how far you are from home. because a part of you is always in you home. no matter what.
so does a part of you will always be with the other party. but then, why do you quit? why do you stop trying? is it too unbearable to be miserable? does it hurt so much seeing the other party looking fine, looking happy?
you began to look for their flaws, you began to judge them. you began to find excuses, you began to dislike them.
what did you got in the end?
did you feel free? did you feel relieved? did you feel happy?
i guess not.